It’d be tough…but that sounds like a plan to me.

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Although it can be scary to talk about such personal topics, I applaud you for giving your kids the room to ask questions.

You are helping me manuever these waters. My kids have asked me in the last couple of days because I am falling in love with someone who’s been my friend for 35 years. I told them I was not having sex…but that I might if things progress. I told them that sex for me is sacred and that sharing myself with someone is a high honor and nothing I take lightly. And this was grown up expression and that they could trust that I always have their best interest at heart.

Then I ran out of the room…LOL!

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When I’m having a particularly difficult time figuring out how to answer his questions, I’ll say something like “That’s a good question, and the answer is kind of complicated. Let me think for a minute about how I can explain this…” That way he knows that I’m open to the conversation, and doesn’t misinterpret my hesitation as discomfort or disapproval.

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I haven’t thought about this too much yet though some forms of this question have been asked by my older daughter. She seems to be satisfied with my answers so far. I agree again that I want a sex positive environment for my girls too!

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I was raised in a sex positive environment and I want the same for my children. I want them to enjoy their sexuality and I recognize them as sexual beings in the world. For me, with my kids, sex and ‘body’ talk is just a normal part of our dialogue. There wasn’t a “Big Talk” about it. The other day on NPR there was a piece about walrus mating and they actually warned listeners. What!!?? So now children aren’t to know how animals are created either?

I always start any question about sex, and sexuality with “I am so glad you asked about that. Anytime you have questions about that, I love to talk to you about _______…” This gives me 3 – 5 seconds to absorb where she’s at, form my thought, and reinforces to her that it’s a good topic, not one to be avoided.

I normally answer questions in as simple, straightforward manner as possible, without extraneous information. If she wants more information, she will ask. I do not use ‘euphemisms’ and I always mention “this is for adults to worry about, not for children” because it can be scary for kids. Also, there is a great book (can I recommend a book?) “It’s so Amazing!” – I also have the puberty version too for my girl who will be 9 this year and is asking about body changes.

For me, I’ve opted not to have sex (again, at least) until I find Mr. One and Only and become Mrs. One and Only, so this question–while completely awkward at best–would really open up a good conversation we could have about why I have chosen to refrain and my beliefs and experiences with sex and the complications it often brings into relationships. But for me, it had more of an affect on me and my self identity than it did on others around me.

So while it’s a scary conversation, it could also turn out to be a good conversation as well.

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