Comments on: Divorce cakes?

By: Melissa

Melissa — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 05:31:28 +0000

I had a divorce party I guess you could say on what would have been our 10th wedding anniversary. We were separated and in divorce proceedings. I felt that the day should be marked in some way. So, some of my girlfriends, my mom and I went out for fondue, drinks, and dancing. We called it my “10 Year Non-Anniversary Celebration.” Just like we celebrate all the other milestones in our life, I think it is healthy to mark this occasion, whether it was a welcome change or not. Put a positive spin on it and focus on the world of endless possibilities that your life now has to offer. You can now make your life out to be what ever it is you always wanted. If you’re losing what you thought you always wanted, then it wasn’t that thing in the first place and now you are free to seek the real thing out!

By: Solomother

Solomother — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 02:12:44 +0000

OH, I remember coming across those divorce cakes when I first started Solomother, darn, they have gotten good!

When I first saw them I thought that a divorce party would be a great way to celebrate. But now? I just want the whole thing to be over with. Since I’m the only one paying anything towards a divorce, it has taken us a long time to get to the almost signing the papers stage.
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By: MindyMom/Single Mom Says...

MindyMom/Single Mom Says... — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 15:52:38 +0000

I think the cakes are hilarious and all in good fun. They can also go both ways – ex husbands can do this too.

I have been to a divorce party, complete with cake AND pinata (a “donkey” with a pic of the ex’s face on it). It was a blast. I do agree tthat he kids should not only NOT be a part of it and should not even get wind of it either. It is strictly adult fun.

As for me, my divorce was final (signed by the judge) on Dec 31, 2002. I was off celebrating New Years Eve with friends and didn’t know the papers had been signed till I got back home and opened my mail several days later. And now I have one more reason to celebrate on NYE!
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By: Dr. Leah

Dr. Leah — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 03:33:40 +0000

Steve: We understand. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

By: Steve

Steve — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 21:32:42 +0000

I actually think that many of these cakes aren’t really funny. Maybe in a macabre sense like the movie “War of the Roses” but while moving on is a good thing, divorce marks the end of a marriage and it is very sad that people don’t take vows seriously anymore and view ending what’s supposed to be a lifelong commitment as “taking out the trash”.

By: Dr. Leah

Dr. Leah — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 12:33:33 +0000

Welcome @Suzi Christie to our Singlemommyhood community. We have several UK bloggers in our community as well as friends who visit. Perhaps, they have tuned into your show. We haven’t heard of whiff from any of our readers about a cake depicting violence. Our readers *YEAH* are all about celebrating this new life beginning in a kid-free way.

By: Suzi Christie

Suzi Christie — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 09:23:01 +0000

The divorce cake saga really worries us at the Starting Over Show. A divorce can be the perfect time to ‘start over’ and try new things, or start a new career, and people often find they are happier with their new life once they have moved on. What really worries us is that women would order a cake depicting a bride stabbing the groom – that really goes too far and if you feel that way about your partner – especially if there are children involved -you need help ‘letting go’ and moving on. That’s why Suzy Miller created the Starting Over Show – to give men and women the tools they need to get through one of life’s most painful experiences.

By: Swati Bharteey

Swati Bharteey — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 23:04:53 +0000

Ok, fine, I admit to celebrating…me and 10 girlfriends went out for tapas…my daughter was at her dad’s place, and an infant at the time. So, she never hear about it. But it was SUCH a momentous event…I couldn’t let it pass without a little sangria. I’m human .
Swati
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By: Lovebabz

Lovebabz — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 19:44:11 +0000

I am with you Dr. Leah…protect your kids. I say celebrate…swing from the chandeliers if that’s your deal. For me it was very sad occassion. I did not want to get divorced. But I will say that I am celebrating my life now. I am the Captain of my ship! I am Queen of my continent. So I don’t need a funny cake to celebrate my liberation….(will take a fine bottle of champagne and a very handsome man thank you!) at the end of the day… its all about who you want to be in your own life story. I am choosing to not see my marriage and divorce as a mistake…how can it be…I was blessed with 4 kids. So celebrate if you must…I tip my flute to you.
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By: Kat

Kat — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 19:11:00 +0000

I got divorced in 1994, long before people started making actual divorce cakes, but I did celebrate my divorce with a cake and my best friend.
We both had babysitters for our kids for the night, we grabbed a cheap little Pepperidge Farm chocolate cake, a bottle of wine, and we celebrated my divorce.
I saw nothing wrong with it then, and nothing wrong with it now, but I DO agree with Dr. Leah, the children should not be present during the celebration.

It is the parent’s divorce, not the divorce of the entire family.
The mom and dad got divorced, but hopefully, the kids still have a relationship with their father, so having a divorce cake and party in front of the kids is totally inappropriate.
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