Comments on: We’re having sex. Does that mean we’re getting back together?

By: Orange

Orange — Wed, 26 Dec 2012 14:40:29 +0000

I am in a same situation. I feel confused and sad. I have to admit that I am still hoping even if he said it bluntly that we are not going to work anymore. I am an emotional wreck after doing the deed with him. I really need help. I can’t talk to anybody about this because I am ashamed that I am not strong enough. HELP

By: Kaira

Kaira — Thu, 15 Mar 2012 17:29:14 +0000

I have been having sex with my daughters father for the past 4 months. It complicated things because we both know hes not ready for commitment but we know that we love eachother and we tell eachother we love eachother & that started complicating things evenmore. So we stopped and we keep it on our daughter and we havent had sex for a month so far and thats how its going to be until i meet someone new or until hes ready to commit to me. Now its like everytime I see him my heart starts racing, im still in love with him but were also not talking feelings to eachother anymore because everytime we do something happens because everything gets complicated. So yeah I think the best thing to do is to keep sex out of it until you know for sure that you guys are going to be back together because then its just going to be alot of “what ifs” in your head.

By: Liz

Liz — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 18:50:03 +0000

NappyKitchen is indeed right on! I’m was in a similar situation not so long ago. After 10 years, one young child and a 6 month brake up the “co-parenting” led to sex not once but a few times. We are still physically attracted to one another..I knew we’d end up in bed therefore I asked him if he was seeing anyone, he said yes, but it was “over”. “a mistake”. I found a toothbrush at his place and he apologized, said it was from “that mistake”…we both decided to move forward and just let things flow….the did! After a few nights and morning together, spending the holidays together (for ours son’s sake) just TWO days later I caught him with this “mistake” at his apartment….
I was disgusted to see it, humiliated, etc. etc.
I’ve beat myself wondering why he’d lie to me? We are separated after all?
Why would he have her over if we had such great sex just less than 48 hours ago? Was he unprotected w/ her also? YES, WE HAD unprotected sex because we’ve always done so and because I believed him stupidly….
Why would he not just be mature enough to 1) just admit he’s dating others 2)use protection regardless if he uses condoms w/ this “mistake” 3)have sex with both just hours later??? I guess this last one…I’d have to be a man to understand….
I’ve cut this sex relationship with him completely off and he is aware of this! He doesn’t want to talk about the issue, only blames me for not coming over without notice, and now weeks later, he send me stupid message suggesting he wants me again (SEX)
The pathetic part, is that I want it too!!
Please tell me, is there something wrong with me? Is there something wrong with wanting SEX from this PIG? Help!!

By: shim aka NappyKitchen

shim aka NappyKitchen — Fri, 05 Aug 2011 03:04:12 +0000

Looks like the only person benefiting from this arrangement is the ex.
shim aka NappyKitchen´s last blog ..Barefoot Toddler on Hot Asphalt

By: Dr. Leah

Dr. Leah — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 09:16:28 +0000

Dezz: Believe me, lots of us can relate to the pain and heartbreak of sex with your ex. Thanks for stopping by.

By: Dezz

Dezz — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 09:11:54 +0000

I was in such a thing with my ex for years. A baby even resulted from it, but he never came back. Ex sex is a waste of time and often not worth the pain and heartache that it causes…

By: Dr. Leah

Dr. Leah — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 21:01:55 +0000

Monica: Rachel and I buzzed about your living situation. And she was right that your boyfriend does not live with you. I have no idea why that thought stuck in my head. Thanks for clarifying. We often share much with our married sisters — who often do it all alone, too. We’re so glad you stopped by. HUG!

By: Monica

Monica — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 19:56:57 +0000

Dr. Leah

My boyfriend does not live with me. He has his own place. We’ve been dating for 3 years this time around and there has been no talk of moving anywhere. I plan on staying at my mom’s house. Its in a wonderful suburb and my 7 year old already has friends there. Since there isn’t much in the way of keeping things consistant, I would like to keep that consistant and she is familar and comfortable at the home and the surroundings, even moving into her own room. I feel like a “married” single woman in way being in this relationship but very much like the single mom that I am doing this alone. Being the only one with them all the time.

By: Dr. Leah

Dr. Leah — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 15:57:42 +0000

Monica: We’re sorry for the loss of your mom. Is your boyfriend living with you now? We weren’t sure if “no plans to move” meant your boyfriend had no plans to move out of your late mom’s house OR no plans to move closer to you and the girls. We hope others share their experiences with you. Thanks for joining us. We hope you visit again soon.

By: Monica

Monica — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 15:46:16 +0000

I am new to this website. I am a single mom who’s situation may be a little different than everyone’s. (maybe not) I dated my (now) boyfriend 8 years ago. Got pregnant and we eventually broke up. Did the whole custody thing once our daughter was born. 5 years later he came back to us wanting to try again. we did, I got pregnant again and we have another daughter. I was living with my mom to help survive and pay bills and now I just recently lost her. My boy friend has no immediate plans to move because of the economy, so I am stuck struggling my 2 girls and my mom’s estate. Its tough. Just wondering if anyone else had to go through this.