I have no problem with him dating his child’s teacher. That’s fine. But sitting beside him and checking out her profile? No, that’s a step too far. I’m not even sure that’s okay in 8 years time (although you’d hope the kid isn’t still at school by then!).

Finally as for the social media relationship between child and teacher it’s simply about boundaries. I think social media has a role within schools and education but connecting across a platform such as FB without restricting one’s profile is a dangerous thing to do.

Early on after my divorce I considered, ever so briefly, of moving down that path. Fortunately, wisdom whispered in my ear and I chose otherwise. There’s plenty of fish in the sea which doesn’t require the man to use his son’s school as a fishing hole.

I think Dad needs to have HIS Facebook priviledges revoked!

Hot or not, and whether he meets her in person and “likes” her for real or not – this is a matter of appropriate boundaries.

If she’s his son’s teacher, he has no business dating her and potentially making for a sticky situation for his child.

If he meets her and thinks he might want to date her at some point (and she’s actually available), then he can wait until she’s no longer in a position to affect his son’s day-to-day life.

This one is clear to me.

Lust after a hot woman whose picture you see? Fine. But keep it to yourself until or unless you get to know her!

Making the determination that you want to date someone purely based on a photo posted on FB or anywhere else? That in itself is, well, dumb.

OK, OK, kidding. Really, though? Questioning whether to break something that’s clearly taboo over a photograph on a Website? The father does know one thing about the teacher, she doesn’t understand the implications of her actions. That’s not really a good thing.

If I were the father, I’d tell the son that dating and relationships involve much more than physical beauty. While he understands his son’s intentions, he doesn’t even know that he has anything in common with the teacher… and what are you doing stalking your teacher on FB?!?!?

I’ve got to agree with @parentingdating, “IF IT FEELS WRONG… DON’T DO IT.”

-Stu

But, the fact that this school teacher has a provocative photo on her facebook page is more troubling. Most school teachers, or professionals, I know are very conscious of what is on their facebook page. And I also agree that he and his son should not be gossiping about how hot is teacher is, that’s not a good example to set. Besides, he hasn’t even met this person, and he’s worried about the prospect of dating her. How about telling his son that he’ll introduce himself and see if she is a nice person first? There are too many other things to consider rather than just whether or not it’s right or wrong to date a teacher.

Personally, I would not date my daughter’s teacher. I just think that it would be pretty awkward for all involved. Having said that, if this was a person who I believe could be the absolute love of my life I would wait until my child switched schools and then I would perhaps pursue a relationship at that point.

Won’t the son be going to highschool and therefore changing schools anyways? Also, I am sure that the school probably has some policy on that sort of thing so I would be interested in knowing what it is.

Either way, good luck with it!!