We’re having sex. Does that mean we’re getting back together?

When we received this emotional email from a distressed single mom, we spoke about her plight immediately. If you’ve “been there” (count us in), you’ve experienced first hand the confusion and pain that inevitably accompanies sex with your ex. Here’s this single mom’s sorry tale: “My ex husband and I have been divorced for eight [...]

When you long for *family* not just co-parenting

We get emotional when so many of you share your agonizing tales of breaking up when you were pregnant. Thank you for sharing your own deeply personal  stories about facing your pain, moving on, and creating  new lives as single mothers. Unfortunately,  moving on is challenging and always requires some time.  A brand new mom [...]

My parents don’t want me to date

“Valentine’s Day was awful,” a young single mom of a toddler told us yesterday. “I’ve been a single mom since conception. My daughter is the love of my life. So, why do I still want more?” “I feel guilty because I want someone else in my life,” she adds. “There’s been no intimacy in my [...]

Is your ex getting remarried?

Here’s an underlying pain that many divorced folks don’t talk about: How you felt when you heard that your ex was getting remarried. These feelings seem to be most hush-hush among women (and men) who have been divorced for years. You might have a very amicable relationship with your ex. You co-parent well together. Maybe [...]

Should you invite Mr. Possible?

If you’ve ever felt lonely at the holidays, we hope you’ll read this one. “I am so tired of spending the holidays alone,” began an email from a single mom reader. “I’m always in overdrive from Halloween to New Years — and not much of it is fun.” She went on, however, to say that [...]

Thanksgiving without your kids?

Because both Dr. Leah and I have sole custody of our kids, our Thanksgiving Day celebrations have always included our kids. For those of you who have shared custody — with alternating holidays — however, this day might find you without your kids. So, we’ve been wondering lately: what if we were NOT able to [...]